Do you have bitterness in your life? Most people would say, “No, I don’t have any bitterness.” However if asked, “Do you have people you haven’t forgiven, are you resentful and angry…?” the answer might be, “Well, yes I do have some of those.” Bitterness is a spiritual strongman that has many underlings that do his bidding. The seven primary underlings of Bitterness include Unforgiveness, Resentment, Retaliation, Anger, Hate, Violence and Murder. Each of these leads to the next and becomes more violent. The key to defeating Bitterness is to first deal with forgiving others and asking forgiveness of others. God commands us to forgive those who have hurt us, to ask forgiveness of those we have wronged and repent for our bitterness. We must want to be free of the underling sins of bitterness and deal with them.
Foundational to the Christian life is forgiving others and asking forgiveness of others. Unforgiveness would say, “I am not willing to forgive the offense against me. I will remember what has been done to me.” God commands us over and over in the scriptures: To forgive those who have hurt us, To ask forgiveness of those we have hurt. If you are having difficulty forgiving, you may also need to ask our Heavenly Father’s forgiveness for your cooperating with a spirit of unforgiveness.
Forgiveness – Forgiveness is not optional, something you do if you feel like it. Forgiving and asking forgiveness is absolutely essential; it is foundational to the process of dealing with the sin in your life. God commands you to forgive those who have hurt you. Forgiving others is important because if you do not forgive others then God will not forgive you. Also remember to forgive yourself and release the burden of guilt you carry. Forgiveness is releasing someone from the wrong they have done to you; it is taking them off of the hook, they no longer owe you something for the wrong done.
The main reason why most people are always bitter is due to unforgiveness. When we learn to forgive just like Christ forgives us every time, we will not bitter. Therefore if you are struggling with bitterness, just look within, there is a high probability it is coming from some form of unforgiveness hidden in your heart.